Can I Get Married in Secret Islam?

Query: I am a Married, 34years, man with foreign (British) non-Muslim woman and I have 3 years old girl & waiting for a new baby (girl) soon, In God will. I met a Muslim woman with 2 boys and currently not married. We love each others for God, but in my situations a married man especially from foreign makes makes it difficult to announce my desire to her to remarry which will probably lead to a breakaway and thus my daughters! what is the opinion to marry in secret considering that her family will be aware but my family not to avoid any tension or fear of the separation from my wife especially for my daughters to live in Britain, my wife’s country. If the separation happened, God forbid, the girls will live with their mother in Britain and this what is worrying me especially that I will not be around to guide them throughout our religion teachings!

Answer

Principles:

  • Marriage is a legal contract that requires a proposal by the bridegroom and consent by the bride, a guardian, and witnesses during concluding the contract as long as there’s no legal impediment.
  • Allah has made polygyny lawful for Muslim men; they can marry two, three or four wives provided that they should deal with them justly in all general affairs.
  • Informing one’s first wife with his second marriage is neither a pillar nor a condition to validate the second marriage.
  • Fulfilling one’s promises and abiding by contracts is a religious obligation; lies, deception, deviousness in all transactions is generally haram.

Therefore, the committee advises you with the following: Based on the previously mentioned principles, you have committed yourself in terms of law and religion with what Islam didn’t prescribe upon you. You have bound yourself not to marry another woman as long as you have been married to the foreign lady from your country of residence. Thus, you must keep your promise and the condition you bound yourself by. A Muslim is to keep his promises, vows and commitments. A Muslim is not to cheat, deceive, nor break his promises and vows.

Allah (Glory be to Him) said in the Glorious Qur’an: “And fulfill the Covenant of Allah (Bai’a: pledge for Islam) when you have covenanted, and break not the oaths after you have confirmed them, and indeed you have appointed Allah your surety. Verily! Allah knows what you do.” (16: 91)

Allah (Glory be to Him) also said in the Glorious Qur’an: “O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations. Lawful to you (for food) are all the beasts of cattle except that which will be announced to you (herein), game (also) being unlawful when you assume Ihram for Hajj or ‘Umrah (pilgrimage). Verily, Allah commands that which He wills.” (5:1)

The prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “Muslims abide by their conditions, except a condition that will make haram what is halal or make halal what is haram.” (At-Tirmidhi).

Kindly be informed that your marriage to another Muslim woman is legitimate as long as there are a guardian and witnesses. However, you will be sinned for breaking your promise with the first wife. Your breaching of your vows may endanger you. Thus, you will have harmed yourself and harming one’s self or others is forbidden because the prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “There should be neither harming (darar) nor reciprocating harm (dirar).”

The rules of the Islamic Sharia strike a balance between vows and personal needs; such as marrying another woman.

Sources: Al-Azhar Al-Sharif

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