Query: Salam alaykoum, I need your help, I am a Moroccan girl (Muslim) I live in Paris (France) I was in relation with a guy three months ago. The truth I liked it very much and after asked my virginity I did not refuse the real problem is that this guy lied to me and told me that he had financial problems I have not Left him down and I helped him and all that is before he pisses me off.
When I knew the truth and that he lied to me and took my verginity just so that I stayed with him and to have my money, I also knew that he was drugged with alcohol and cocaine almost of the time so I decided to leave him.
Now the problem is that I am not virgin anymore (knowing that we did not sleep together after depucle because i regretwhat I did). I cried out and cried like a madman and I can not accept my situation, I can not move forward in my life because of this story.
I am depressed: (please help me The doctor told me that I lost my hymene but that it is possible to do an operation to remake my hymene. I would like to know your opinion on this and in religion is it not haram ?
Can I do this operation and keep this secret for me?
Thanks in advance for your help. cordially.
Answer
What you have done is haram. You shouldn’t have done that by any means. What’s the difference between you and other non-Muslim girls?
You must repent and regret what you have done and keep asking Allah for forgiveness. May Allah accept your repentance. Your repentance and regret should be out of your fear from Allah (Exalted be He above everything). It shouldn’t be out of your concern over losing your virginity. Your fear should be, first and foremost, from Allah Who helps and takes care of you.
The operation to remake your hymen is haram because it involves lying, deception and fraud. However, if you will not be able to get married because you will be scandalized, you can undergo this operation provided that you must be and do good and refrain from committing prohibited acts.
But if you know that losing your virginity is not something that can make you unable to get married as a Western Muslim would accept it. Then, you shouldn’t have this operation. And Allah knows best.
Sources: Al-Azhar Al-Sharif
Also, Read: Wearing Pants for Men Is Not Haram